Humility

The pendulum of the mind oscillates between sense and nonsense, not between right and wrong.

Carl Gustav Jung

Humility is self esteem based in wholeness and fulfillment.

Humility is the acceptance of myself and my shortcomings.

I used to live two different lives, which forced my insides to be in conflict with my outsides.

Until I accepted and asked God to change me at depth, into establishing my spiritual nature and live in accordance to His Will for my life, I was unaware that I was operating solely on my ego.

Remember one aspect, that God is the image within. It is the invisible Power that runs the entire system, the universe.

The ego is into people pleasing, validation, approval, and confirmation amongst many other defects of character.

Understanding through a process of life experience, self discovery, self love, and self awareness, I am learning that my life is an evolution of humility.

Life presents to me opportunities everyday to exercise and witness humility. This is a beautiful gift because It brings me closer in union with God who is the orchestrater of my life.

When I live with humility, I recognize the behaviors and attributes that kept my ego in charge.

Fear, guilt, shame, anxiety, anger and control were the main root system of my ego. They still are a part of me, yet now I accept these feelings and go to a new choice of living with honesty, willingness, openness, love, acceptance, and trust that God is molding me into the person I was created to be.

Humility is letting go of concepts and modes of behavior and being able to transition through the process of change with a grateful attitude that even though I may not understand what to do, I must trust that the circumstance, person, place, or thing is molding my character to honor myself.

When I honor myself, I can honor others. When I come from a meaning that “I am good enough and can accept it,” I then move outward to others in a pleasing, kind, and cooperative manner.

Honestly viewing my character, good and bad; understanding that I know very little, modestly viewing myself as part of the greater whole, intuitively listening and trusting that still quiet voice within me, loving myself so I can love others, tolerating the behaviors and dispositions of myself and others, and yielding to a power that makes it all possible, these are qualities of humility.

Humility is strength. When I trust myself and am able to delegate and share with others, I experience humility.

Life also manifests humility in me. One such way is loss. Loss of health, wealth, relationships, loved ones including our animal friends, has an impact on the meaning I interpret life from.

Our being is a manifestation of meaning.

These experiences allow me to create and shift my attitude into a meaning that enriches my life.

When I understand pride, bravado, selfishness, and egoism are a part of my make up, I can transform myself by viewing these states of consciousness with an open, still, and loving heart.

Humility requires patience for the process of life and the unfoldment of my character. When I can admit that I made a mistake and release perfectionism for outcomes, I can strive for excellence instead.

People are imperfect, that is why we are human. The ideal is not lost, only the measure on how I interpret perfection does.

Asking is imagining. When I humbly ask with no attachment on the outcome, I am given all that I need. Maybe not what I want, but what I need.

My purpose is to discover a meaning for my life that includes the sharing with others, then pride is shifted to self worth, which operates under the power of faith.

With this understanding, I can now personalize my experience and live with integrity. I can have my insides match my outside.

I no longer desire to find my happiness or relevance in an another. I must live within myself. This s where joy is found.

Only then does my ego or “I,” shrink to its proper perspective. I am a part of the equation of life, not the whole solution.

Now my psychology, relationship, and spirituality are in harmony. My thoughts, judgments, and decisions include the cooperation, not competition with the outside world. I compete with myself to become better today than I was yesterday.

Better today so I can be better tomorrow. This is humility for me today. A work in progress not perfection.

Character

Thought and Character

Silence is the cornerstone of Character. From the silence springs the thoughts that manifest.

The aphorism, “ As a man thinketh in his heart so is he,” not only embraces the whole of a man’s being, but is so comprehensive as to reach out into every circumstance of his or her life.  A man is literally what he thinks, the character being the complete sum of the thoughts contained.

As a being of Power, Intelligence, and Love, and the lord of thought, man holds the key to every situation or circumstance of life and contains the transforming and regenerative agency by which he or she can make of herself what she wills.

Given this truth, character is the fluid process of molding one’s individuality.  Personality is what others perceive, individuality is what you are.  We have dominion of our thoughts and therefore dominion on how we choose to think and behave.  Man is always the master, even in his weakest and most abandoned state.  But then, he or she is the foolish master who misgoverns his household.

Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.

James Allen

When we begin to reflect on our condition, and to search diligently for the Law upon which our being is established, we then become the wise master, directing our energy with intelligence, and fashioning the thoughts to fruitful issues. Such is the conscious master, and man can only thus become by discovering within himself the laws of thought; which discovery is totally a matter of application, self-analysis, and experience.  Only by much searching and mining can we become the maker of character, the molder of our life, and the builder of our destiny. 

We may unerringly prove, if we will watch, control, and alter our thoughts, tracing their effects upon ourself, upon others, and upon our life and circumstances, linking cause and effect by patient practice and investigation, and utilizing every experience, even to the most trivial, everyday occurrence, as a means of obtaining that knowledge of ourself, which is Understanding, Wisdom, Power.

In this direction, as in no other, is the law absolute that, “He that seeks, finds; and to him that knocks, it shall be opened;” for only by patience, practice, and careless importunity can a man enter the Door of the Temple of Knowledge.

The reality is is that character and competence drive everything in human behavior.  To nurture character and competence is the most high-leverage thing we can do to create empowerment.  But competence without character doesn’t inspire trust either.  Both character and competence are necessary to inspire trust.  And both are completely within our Circle of Influence.  

Character includes:

  • Integrity—the ability to walk your talk, a thorough interestedness of public, private and deep inner life around a balanced set of principles.
  • Maturity—the balance of courage and consideration that enables you to say what needs to be said, to give honest feedback, to address issues in a straightforward way, but with consideration and respect for the feelings, thoughts, and opinions of others.
  • Abundance Mentality—the paradigm that life is ever expanding, that there are an infinite number of third alternatives (in contrast to the paradigm  that life is a zero sum game, that the pie is only so large and if anyone else gets a piece, that means less for me).

Competence includes:

  • Technical Competence—the knowledge and skill to achieve the agreed-upon results, the ability to think through problems and look for new alternatives.
  • Conceptual Competence—the ability to see the big picture, to examine assumptions and shift perspectives.
  • Interdependent Competence—the ability to interact effectively with others, including the ability to listen, communicate, get to third alternatives, create win-win agreements, and work toward synergistic solutions, the ability to see and operate effectively and cooperatively in complete organizations and systems.

Character and competence are high-leverage areas of focus that make each of the other conditions possible.  The foundation is based in trust and one must be trustworthy and develop the attitudes and behaviors that instill trust in oneself and others.

Remain teachable.  Be so disciplined that the emotions of being alive, alert, awake, joyful, and enthusiastic are so evident, that we begin to demonstrate regardless of circumstances, situations, or moods.

In short, live a standard of excellence and commit to excellence.  Progress not perfection is the aim. Take responsibility for your character.

Sculptor, God, I am the stone.

Viktor Frankl

Referenced by James Allen, “As A Man Thinketh,” pages. 11-14. Stephen Covey, “First Things First,” pages, 241-242.

Flow of Life

“I will survive, we will get by, we will survive!”

Jerry Garcia

Some want to live a life that is filled with imagination, often misdirected, and leading to future problems.

The lamp that burns within, cannot be extinguished.

Listen to the voice that directs you to prosperity and well-being.

Make yourself so you can be yourself. Otherwise, you are on the ship of fools.

Recognize too, that it can always end badly, otherwise it would not End.

Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to step back.

It’s amazing how much you don’t know about something you have done all your life.

You may be interested in knowing that adventure, tempo, and wholeness are qualities in everyone.

The following contains mature subject matter.

Forgive Yourself

Don’t undermine your confidence.

Our words, imagination, actions, and understanding, tell the story of You.

It is an accumulation of perceptions, beliefs, and previous actions or experiences.

Who is the man not willing to receive information and digest it as absolute? An educated person.

Hardest test in life is the patience to wait for the right moment.

Guatama Buddha

Inspiration must be readily available.

Whether a sunrise or majestic sunset or anything you can imagine.

That ship of fools will continue sailing to a port with no destination.

Flow in all activities.

Now, you have a teaspoon of some of the ingredients required to make your life what it can be.

In the morning dew today, FEAR is nonexistent.

Worry is just a misused word.

We come to understand that False Evidence Appearing Real can be our reality if we choose or not.

No need to cry today anyway.

Find the blessing midst the adversity.

Read this following poem in understanding:

Onward and Upward

By Jane Priest

Look not backward, O my friend,

Nor tarry with yesterday

The present has full need

Of you. The here-and-now

Demands your care.

And on the ascending stair

Of time, others wait your benediction

And your love.

You are here now because

You’re needed in this place, this time.

Some unfinished duty – simple or sublime

Awaits your hand. O understand!

We cannot always choose

The way we go. The flow of life

Demands so much of faith, of trust

And like the river’s flow,

We onward go, because we must.

—ooOoo—-

M.S.

Discipline

Repetition is Learning

Discipline: Practice and Repetition leads to Improvement

For any desired result, discipline is a requirement.  Structure, repetition, and learning are necessary, but when channelled negatively they can produce unintended consequences.

When I was a using active alcoholic, my discipline was producing results that were not in my best interest.  I routinely structured my days to go into as many different stores to purchase alcohol so as to not draw suspicion to store clerks that I was an alcoholic.  I was disciplined in the end to only drink at home in solitude. I did not want to endanger anyone on the road, which in a real sense was false because in the morning when I would purchase alcohol, surely I still had some remaining alcohol level in my system from the day or night before.

What does discipline mean for the non using alcoholic who is sober and is willing to remain that way for life?  A mind shift needs to be created, whereby I can see myself sober today.  I need to understand that I am only an actor in this play that I call my life.  There is action that is required to maintain a soundness of mind. Sometimes action means no action.  First, I must recognize that I am not in control, as much as my ego wants me to believe otherwise.  I do not control the weather, yet I can choose my own weather (attitude) to adjust.  There is a force, frequency, vibration, or energy that rules this universe.  I can choose to connect with this source daily and or as many times as necessary to maintain a level of balance and trust in my behavior.  All of my actions are the result of two categories: psychology and spirituality.

All expectations are assumptions.  This is a formed habit and an activity I do in my mind spontaneously. Fortunately, today I am more aware of this thought madness.  It gets to the point that now I can witness these thought patterns and not act on them.  I required a consistent discipline of daily victories of learning, sharing, and growing to achieve this awareness. Like the clouds that dissipate under a strong wind, I can remain still in my mind and centered. The art of discipline mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually is required to be practiced sometimes moment to moment, day to day to achieve soundness of mind.

I must learn to offer myself to the power greater than myself to sustain me.  I must come to believe that this source is guiding and directing my daily circumstances.  Faith and trust is established and nurtured. A willingness to accept the things I cannot change and finding courage to change the things I can, must be understood and disciplined in my behaviors.  Discipline requires wisdom or discernment, coupled with consistent effort to live life as an instant happening. And the discipline of understanding that I can choose my reaction or response.   

Focusing on the task at hand or simply living in now moments will produce your circumstances in the future.  This is why prayer is a discipline that creates order in the mind and in my life.  When I pray, I am not trying to receive anything.  I focus all my attention humbly asking carefully what I would desire for another as if it is a gift from me. This asking or imagining is re-establishing order in my mind.  Soundness of mind is the destination not just sobriety. Gratitude is an attitude and appreciation for my gifts.

It is useful to know that the word discipline is derived to mean pupil and to learn.  Discipline is an active action.  As stated earlier, structure in your daily activity is essential.  This means self-care, ie. bathing, proper nutrition, sharing and working with others. Self-respect is to honor myself and the commitments I make to others. All these things build my character which is demonstrated in my actions.  Responsible Integrity is the result where I can “walk the talk” in a consistent manner which boosts my confidence or assurance that I am a person of trustworthiness. I believe this is what I most deep down desire.

Exercise your discipline daily in small quantities within your circle of influence and you will be amazed at the larger sphere of influence you will have on others.  Maintaining sobriety on a daily basis creates a brighter future for you. Be aware of what small actions you are making continuously, this is the discipline.