Anger

Yawning at Anger

Anger defined is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.

Living in today’s interconnected information world, there are countless opportunities to feed from the buffet of delightful entities, persons and media to generate this emotion..

How important is your mental wellness?

When we view the word anger, it is part of the human scene. The emotion is only a feeling backed by fear.

All of us are exposed daily to the temptation to engage in this feeling.

Here are some alternatives to express this emotion;

Anger

Synonyms & Antonyms

Synonyms: Noun

angriness, birse [chiefly Scottish], choler, furor, fury, indignation, irateness, ire, lividity, lividness, mad, madness, mood [archaic], outrage, rage, spleen, wrath, wrathfulness

Synonyms: Verb

enrage, incense, inflame (also enflame), infuriate, ire, mad, madden, outrage, rankle, rile, roil, steam up, tick off

Antonyms: Noun

delight, pleasure

Antonyms: Verb

delight, gratify, please


“Winners never quit.”

“A quitter never wins.

“Don’t be a quitter.”

What about deciding to quit excessive anger?

Anger irritates the soul. If prolonged, it eats away at the soul-body generating progressive resentment or illness.

Anger can adversely affect your health and relationships. It has been known to eat away at organ tissue, cause heart attacks, disrupt blood flow and corrode the psyche.

How do we get to the point of anger?

It seems that a personalized rules violation has occurred. Beliefs!

Something that suddenly gets your attention triggers in an instant reaction. When we understand ourselves, we can better understand others.

What’s the difference between responding and reacting?

Do you recognize that when you are hungry, tired or feel alone, the emotion labeled anger can be triggered?

What about the fact that people who are hurting like to hurt others?

If we simplified that emotions are either a call for love or a cry for help, what would that do to your mindset?

The pleasure – pain principle is evolutionarily wired into the brain even though there is an alternative.

The option is to live in a contemplative state in which you understand that underneath the perceptional mind world is 98% silence. We are the ones creating all the noise in our perception with the 2%.

It is one of nature’s tricks, little understood, that each day we awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday.

When we recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind, and in us, we become prepared to control whatever personality awakes in us each day.

The aim is to become master of my moods through positive action [thinking] and when I master my moods, I will control my destiny.

Remember that to “sin” means missing the mark. Where is your aim?

Can you see how describing the feeling with a word captures the emotion into a fixed crystallized state of mind?

When we label our emotions with language, we are identifying and becoming the emotion instead of just feeling them.

Language is the building block of reality.

What if we just allow the emotion? Witness it. Release it. Or better still, adjust our rules of engagement into understanding that everyone sees and interprets the world differently.

What if I told you that watching the news or engaging in social media is geared to stir the emotions of anger.

So, why are you choosing to watch it for continual periods of time?

The answer to this human dilemma is neither in abandoning caution or accepting conformity.

It is in recognizing the importance of re-learning [understanding]. The most important idea I have been able to embrace that resulted in personal growth and new found liberty is in two simple, though amazingly profound statements: “Not everything is right the way I first learned it!” and “This too shall pass.”

I must disavow what I ascertain is wrong. Then it is true. I am most alive when I exercise my own will.

Understanding that anger is a corrosive emotion which destroys in the present and transmits into the future can lead to awareness.

The present moment can be used for learning and understanding past wrongs, not to fuel resentment.

Anger can be likened to holding a smoldering coal in your hand to throw at another; all that accomplished is burning your own hand in the process.

When angered, blow by the emotion—Express it and shift quickly into a settled mind quickly. Forgive yourself for feeling it and forgive the circumstance or person instigating the emotion.

There are no wrong feelings only actions.

If possible, “vent” in private and express it. But don’t live in it and explode in front of others.

You will look back regretfully and say, “Was it really worth it?” In two weeks you might say, “was it that important?”

Understand that anger is a call to action for a new approach in perspective.

Therefore the individual who wishes to have an answer to the problem of anger, as it is posed today, has need, first and foremost of self knowledge, that is, the utmost possible knowledge of his own wholeness. He must know relentlessly how much good he can do, and what anger he is capable of, and must beware of regarding the one as real and the other as illusion. Both are elements within his nature, and both are bound to come to light in him, should he wish — as he ought — to live without self deception or self-delusion.

Dr. Carl Gustav Jung

Most of us are busier than we ought to be. At least our lives are crowded in such a way that frustration is becoming a normal and accepted mode of human experience and behavior.

Some time ago I found a new “translation” of the 23rd Psalm, called the Japanese Version, by Toki Miyashina. It helps me…and I want it to help you.

Japanese Version 23rd Psalm

“The Lord is my Pace setter, I shall not rush;

He makes me stop and rest for quiet intervals.

He provides me with images of stillness, which restore my serenity.

He leads me in the ways of efficiency through calmness of mind,

And His guidance is peace.

Even though I have a great many things to accomplish each day,

I will not fret, for His presence is here,

His all importance, will keep me in balance,

He prepares refreshments and renewal in the midst of my activity

By anointing my mind with His oils of tranquility.

My cup of joyous energy overflows,

Surely harmony and effectiveness shall be the fruit of my hours, for I shall walk in the pace of my Lord and dwell in His house forever.”

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Focus

Focus

What you habitually think largely determines what you will ultimately become.

Bruce Lee


Focus is the central activity that runs my everyday experience. What I mean is that whatever I focus on, it becomes the lens in which I interpret my world.

How do I control my focus? The mind is a world processing center that can choose infinite possibilities. From sadness, to gladness, to how to make it through my day, routine, or relationships.

Focus is determined by the questions I ask of myself and the response I make from questions asked of me.

Questions focus the mind.

I focus my attention by being aware of what I’m asking. My attention or mind is not only less distracted, it is less over stimulated.


Questions allow me to see what I want to receive. They also pinpoint my mind into determining what I will choose to do moving forward.

Questions can expand possibilities or shrink me into a fear based consciousness.

I know all of us have experienced this phenomena and it truly rules our lives. The consequences of my focus do determine what decisions I will make at any given moment, thus determining a destination of success or failure.

Remember, asking means imagining.

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What is success? Success is a state of mind. Success is a continual realization that I’m doing my best; I won’t win them all; I enjoy the ones I do win.

I strive to prepare, progress, and reach higher levels of enlightenment, talent, effectiveness, sharing, and discipline. That is success for me.

Now, for you the definition or meaning may differ and then you will experience a different set of circumstances and world view for your life. This is what makes life so rich.


The creator gave me one gift above all others and that is the ability to choose.

I can choose my meaning and it will dictate what decisions I can or will make. I also believe that I have five basic needs beyond survival, safety, and physical needs. These could be categorized as psychological or spiritual needs.

These five needs can be ranked in any order like a combination to a safe which drive my behavior in various directions.

They are, certainty, variety, love/connection, significance, and growth. These facets are like the compass dial pointing me to true north.

Personally, these five needs have shifted place the more I have recovered from alcoholism and might shift again in the future.

Today, love/ connection leads my list because I believe God is love and when I can connect with others, I feel a deeper connection with my inner source.

Growth is next because if I no longer am teachable, I am regressing. I am either growing or dying.

Variety is the juice or spice of life that excites me to get up in the morning to discover new possibilities and new relationships. This provides me with a degree of significance because I have been able to witness and share in the awakening of people who wanted so badly to change their lives and recover from alcohol.

I now am certain that if I meet the above needs, the certainty is a by product of the other four. It is fascinating for me to discover this insight because most are not aware of it.


In the past, certainty was number one. I lived in such a state of fear, guilt, shame, and regret that I needed some sort of certainty to help me escape these emotions.

Alcohol was the certain drug of choice, which provided a meaning of avoidance of these feelings, that also caused me to continue to make decisions that were not in the best interest of my health and family.

I can now see the cycle or process of how powerful focus or questions can affect my choices and decisions. What I imagine is the result of the asking and answering of questions.


What, Who, Where, When, How, and Why is the dial of questions I use. Again, the order or sequence has shifted for me as well. “What if,” is really a childish mode of questioning because it is based in hypothetical assumptions. This is useful to do when problem solving.

I have experienced that why questions can quickly determine a meaning or belief so I am always cautious as to what excuses or false promises derive from this question. Why questions are your endless loop scenarios.

Where is your Focus now? Where is your mind wandering? I highly encourage you to watch this video on the major benefits of reclaiming your focus.

Your attitude is determined by the focus of your mind. If you decide to live in a state of gratitude, notice what your mind releases in the form of ideas of pleasure. Notice, when you feel fits of anger or disappointment and what ideas are manifested.

As you you can imagine, much skill or discipline is required. Awareness is key. Watching our thoughts and directing them by the questions we ask is the start of the process of healing, discovery, and personal growth.

Small steps lead to big changes. My desire is that we can stop for several moments in the day of distractions and concentrate to the best of our ability what questions we are asking of ourselves. Imagine all of the pre programming we have accumulated over the course of our lives.

Live in the present and watch your internal dialogue. Like the seed that is planted in the soil, it will grow.