Anger defined is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
Living in today’s interconnected information world, there are countless opportunities to feed from the buffet of delightful entities, persons and media to generate this emotion..
How important is your mental wellness?
When we view the word anger, it is part of the human scene. The emotion is only a feeling backed by fear.
All of us are exposed daily to the temptation to engage in this feeling.
Here are some alternatives to express this emotion;
Synonyms & Antonyms
angriness, birse [chiefly Scottish], choler, furor, fury, indignation, irateness, ire, lividity, lividness, mad, madness, mood [archaic], outrage, rage, spleen, wrath, wrathfulness
enrage, incense, inflame (also enflame), infuriate, ire, mad, madden, outrage, rankle, rile, roil, steam up, tick off
delight, gratify, please
“Winners never quit.”
“A quitter never wins.
“Don’t be a quitter.”
What about deciding to quit excessive anger?
Anger irritates the soul. If prolonged, it eats away at the soul-body generating progressive resentment or illness.
Anger can adversely affect your health and relationships. It has been known to eat away at organ tissue, cause heart attacks, disrupt blood flow and corrode the psyche.
How do we get to the point of anger?
It seems that a personalized rules violation has occurred. Beliefs!
Something that suddenly gets your attention triggers in an instant reaction. When we understand ourselves, we can better understand others.
What’s the difference between responding and reacting?
Do you recognize that when you are hungry, tired or feel alone, the emotion labeled anger can be triggered?
What about the fact that people who are hurting like to hurt others?
If we simplified that emotions are either a call for love or a cry for help, what would that do to your mindset?
The pleasure – pain principle is evolutionarily wired into the brain even though there is an alternative.
The option is to live in a contemplative state in which you understand that underneath the perceptional mind world is 98% silence. We are the ones creating all the noise in our perception with the 2%.
It is one of nature’s tricks, little understood, that each day we awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday.
When we recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind, and in us, we become prepared to control whatever personality awakes in us each day.
The aim is to become master of my moods through positive action [thinking] and when I master my moods, I will control my destiny.
Remember that to “sin” means missing the mark. Where is your aim?
Can you see how describing the feeling with a word captures the emotion into a fixed crystallized state of mind?
When we label our emotions with language, we are identifying and becoming the emotion instead of just feeling them.
Language is the building block of reality.
What if we just allow the emotion? Witness it. Release it. Or better still, adjust our rules of engagement into understanding that everyone sees and interprets the world differently.
What if I told you that watching the news or engaging in social media is geared to stir the emotions of anger.
So, why are you choosing to watch it for continual periods of time?
The answer to this human dilemma is neither in abandoning caution or accepting conformity.
It is in recognizing the importance of re-learning [understanding]. The most important idea I have been able to embrace that resulted in personal growth and new found liberty is in two simple, though amazingly profound statements: “Not everything is right the way I first learned it!” and “This too shall pass.”
I must disavow what I ascertain is wrong. Then it is true. I am most alive when I exercise my own will.
Understanding that anger is a corrosive emotion which destroys in the present and transmits into the future can lead to awareness.
The present moment can be used for learning and understanding past wrongs, not to fuel resentment.
Anger can be likened to holding a smoldering coal in your hand to throw at another; all that accomplished is burning your own hand in the process.
When angered, blow by the emotion—Express it and shift quickly into a settled mind quickly. Forgive yourself for feeling it and forgive the circumstance or person instigating the emotion.
There are no wrong feelings only actions.
If possible, “vent” in private and express it. But don’t live in it and explode in front of others.
You will look back regretfully and say, “Was it really worth it?” In two weeks you might say, “was it that important?”
Understand that anger is a call to action for a new approach in perspective.
Therefore the individual who wishes to have an answer to the problem of anger, as it is posed today, has need, first and foremost of self knowledge, that is, the utmost possible knowledge of his own wholeness. He must know relentlessly how much good he can do, and what anger he is capable of, and must beware of regarding the one as real and the other as illusion. Both are elements within his nature, and both are bound to come to light in him, should he wish — as he ought — to live without self deception or self-delusion.Dr. Carl Gustav Jung
Most of us are busier than we ought to be. At least our lives are crowded in such a way that frustration is becoming a normal and accepted mode of human experience and behavior.
Some time ago I found a new “translation” of the 23rd Psalm, called the Japanese Version, by Toki Miyashina. It helps me…and I want it to help you.
Japanese Version 23rd Psalm
“The Lord is my Pace setter, I shall not rush;
He makes me stop and rest for quiet intervals.
He provides me with images of stillness, which restore my serenity.
He leads me in the ways of efficiency through calmness of mind,
And His guidance is peace.
Even though I have a great many things to accomplish each day,
I will not fret, for His presence is here,
His all importance, will keep me in balance,
He prepares refreshments and renewal in the midst of my activity
By anointing my mind with His oils of tranquility.
My cup of joyous energy overflows,
Surely harmony and effectiveness shall be the fruit of my hours, for I shall walk in the pace of my Lord and dwell in His house forever.”
What other synonyms of anger are you experiencing in your daily living?
Watch your internal dialogue so it does not consume your experience. Avoid people, circumstances that bring it to the surface. Do the best you can.
It’s easy to say that managing our emotions is simple. Of course something that becomes habitual is often difficult to change.
How would your health improve by managing your anger?
How can I understand that I don’t understand?
Understanding is always evolving.
This is real understanding.
References; Keith Haystead M.A.,”It Seem To Me,” April 1988 Published by Peace For Today. Glendale, CA.
Toki Miyashina, Japanese Version, 23rd Psalm
**notice how many times “understanding” was used**